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Mindful Matters Blog
February 2012
Worry not!
In this day of challenges worry is at an epidemic level. There are many misconceptions
about the so called benefits of worrying. Worry only creates misery and never changes
anything; if anything it attracts more of what you are worrying about. This is called;
the self-fulfilling prophesy. See, I told you I was right, I did have something to worry
about. The question is: do you want to be right or happy? Worry is a vicious cycle of
negativity. The truth is that about 99% of what we worry about never comes true at
all or the way we imaged it, and the things that do come true are not avoided by
worrying. You have to have positive thoughts in order to feel better in life, not to
mention attract better circumstances. Our old way of thinking is very convoluted and
twisted. In essence we are making ourselves afraid to feel safe. You can’t ever feel
safe if you are afraid. This is what worry is all about. A little backwards if you ask me.
You could spend days, months and years worrying about something that may or may
not happen. This is lost time, time you could spend being happy. Any time we worry
we are not living in the present moment.
There are people who worry their whole lives and what they fear never happens. Why
would you want to spend any time miserable and afraid? There is a misnomer that
worrying keeps you in control. This is an illusionary sense of control and is simply not
accurate; actually the complete opposite is true. There is a lot to be said for letting go
of control. Control takes an enormous about of energy and time. We do not have
control over most outside events, we only have control over how we react to those
events, and most do not even know they have control over that. If you were given a
choice, which one would you choose, spending five years worrying about an event that
probably won’t happen or having five years of complete happiness? You can take
proactive measures to help something along, but ultimately you have no control over
the ultimate outcome. I say do what you can in this present moment and then let it go!
I have a philosophy about life, I believe that everything, good or bad serve a Divine
purpose, whether I understand it or not. I look at challenges as opportunities for
growth. Yes some of life’s lessons are hard, but it all depends how you look at it. A
lost job could the opening of something better where you will be much happier doing
something you love. Financial struggle illuminates what is really important in life and
how you have not used your money wisely and for your higher good. A so called failed
relationship may teach you that a more supportive person is in your future. A lost
house might say that you would be ultimately happier in another place. The sky’s the
limit as to how these challenges can serve your higher good. Put your thoughts
towards the endless possibilities that this event has opened for you. There are so
many ways to look at life. Choose the ones that bring you happiness & peace. You
may not be able to change what happened or what will happen, but you can change
your reaction to it.
You say this is easier than done. This is a habit the human race has developed for
tens of thousands of years. It won’t go away over night, but you have to start
somewhere. Start with your intension to change. Don’t change your reaction at first,
just be observant of what you think and how it makes you feel? Start by catching your
thoughts and see how much time a day you spend thinking of negative scenarios; just
make a list. You have to start to see how it doesn't serve you or keep you safe, soon
you will realize just how miserable worrying makes you. Once you develop distaste for
worry then you can work on changing the thoughts and reactions. Then when you learn
to catch your thoughts choose to change them. Tell yourself it is okay or image a
positive scenario where the event doesn't happen. You have to do this over and over
so the energy of worry dissolves. Over time you will notice that you are not spending
as much time there. Learn to trust your heart; when you are in your heart and listen
to its wisdom, worrying is not necessary. There are many avenues for personal growth
which can shift your perspectives, join a group or find a mentor.
Your worrisome thoughts have been telling you that the world can’t be trusted. Trust
takes time. Think of someone who lied to you, how hard was it for you to trust them
again? Worrisome thoughts are like lies we tell ourselves. We are our own terrorists.
Things end, life has its challenges, why not be happy in between. Being happy doesn't
create the event, but it does make life worth living. Many think if I let their guard
down things will fall apart. Has worrying actually stopped bad things from happening
in your life; of course not. Most people want two things in life, to have no regrets and
to live life to its fullest; how can this happen if I we are worrying. Take it one day at a
time and dare to question what is going through your mind on a daily basis, does it
make sense and is it accurate? Anytime we are worrying, we are not living in the
present moment. The present moment is where life happens. Make this year, a year of
transformation, a year that you could gain your freedom to live a happy and fulfilled
life! Trust me, you deserve it!
In Love & Light, Rev Carolyn Underwood
Worry not!
In this day of challenges worry is at an epidemic level. There are many misconceptions
about the so called benefits of worrying. Worry only creates misery and never changes
anything; if anything it attracts more of what you are worrying about. This is called;
the self-fulfilling prophesy. See, I told you I was right, I did have something to worry
about. The question is: do you want to be right or happy? Worry is a vicious cycle of
negativity. The truth is that about 99% of what we worry about never comes true at
all or the way we imaged it, and the things that do come true are not avoided by
worrying. You have to have positive thoughts in order to feel better in life, not to
mention attract better circumstances. Our old way of thinking is very convoluted and
twisted. In essence we are making ourselves afraid to feel safe. You can’t ever feel
safe if you are afraid. This is what worry is all about. A little backwards if you ask me.
You could spend days, months and years worrying about something that may or may
not happen. This is lost time, time you could spend being happy. Any time we worry
we are not living in the present moment.
There are people who worry their whole lives and what they fear never happens. Why
would you want to spend any time miserable and afraid? There is a misnomer that
worrying keeps you in control. This is an illusionary sense of control and is simply not
accurate; actually the complete opposite is true. There is a lot to be said for letting go
of control. Control takes an enormous about of energy and time. We do not have
control over most outside events, we only have control over how we react to those
events, and most do not even know they have control over that. If you were given a
choice, which one would you choose, spending five years worrying about an event that
probably won’t happen or having five years of complete happiness? You can take
proactive measures to help something along, but ultimately you have no control over
the ultimate outcome. I say do what you can in this present moment and then let it go!
I have a philosophy about life, I believe that everything, good or bad serve a Divine
purpose, whether I understand it or not. I look at challenges as opportunities for
growth. Yes some of life’s lessons are hard, but it all depends how you look at it. A
lost job could the opening of something better where you will be much happier doing
something you love. Financial struggle illuminates what is really important in life and
how you have not used your money wisely and for your higher good. A so called failed
relationship may teach you that a more supportive person is in your future. A lost
house might say that you would be ultimately happier in another place. The sky’s the
limit as to how these challenges can serve your higher good. Put your thoughts
towards the endless possibilities that this event has opened for you. There are so
many ways to look at life. Choose the ones that bring you happiness & peace. You
may not be able to change what happened or what will happen, but you can change
your reaction to it.
You say this is easier than done. This is a habit the human race has developed for
tens of thousands of years. It won’t go away over night, but you have to start
somewhere. Start with your intension to change. Don’t change your reaction at first,
just be observant of what you think and how it makes you feel? Start by catching your
thoughts and see how much time a day you spend thinking of negative scenarios; just
make a list. You have to start to see how it doesn't serve you or keep you safe, soon
you will realize just how miserable worrying makes you. Once you develop distaste for
worry then you can work on changing the thoughts and reactions. Then when you learn
to catch your thoughts choose to change them. Tell yourself it is okay or image a
positive scenario where the event doesn't happen. You have to do this over and over
so the energy of worry dissolves. Over time you will notice that you are not spending
as much time there. Learn to trust your heart; when you are in your heart and listen
to its wisdom, worrying is not necessary. There are many avenues for personal growth
which can shift your perspectives, join a group or find a mentor.
Your worrisome thoughts have been telling you that the world can’t be trusted. Trust
takes time. Think of someone who lied to you, how hard was it for you to trust them
again? Worrisome thoughts are like lies we tell ourselves. We are our own terrorists.
Things end, life has its challenges, why not be happy in between. Being happy doesn't
create the event, but it does make life worth living. Many think if I let their guard
down things will fall apart. Has worrying actually stopped bad things from happening
in your life; of course not. Most people want two things in life, to have no regrets and
to live life to its fullest; how can this happen if I we are worrying. Take it one day at a
time and dare to question what is going through your mind on a daily basis, does it
make sense and is it accurate? Anytime we are worrying, we are not living in the
present moment. The present moment is where life happens. Make this year, a year of
transformation, a year that you could gain your freedom to live a happy and fulfilled
life! Trust me, you deserve it!
In Love & Light, Rev Carolyn Underwood
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